Happy Summer 2024! The heatwave has been so real in the Pacific Northwest! Wth the heatwave comes the hot chisme, asi que acercate y ponte ready para leer how our BIPOC gente is out there trying to thrive but are finding themselves caught up in the drama of the workplace. 

Let me get right into it: not everyone you work with wants to see you succeed. I know, this isn’t exactly alarming as a BIPOC, first generation or immigrant professional. I mean, come on I have an entire workshop series on standing in your power. The challenge to work through is how to remain professional while reminding yourself and everyone around you of the value of your work and also knowing when to ask for support in and outside of your company. 

When you have a disagreement with a co-worker or even your supervisor, the key is how you work through the situation with the relationship intact, a lesson in your pocket, and your name in good standing. Now, listen, Linda, I am a fiery Taurus chica who has had to intentionally LEARN how to disagree with others professionally. When we are passionate about the work that we do, especially if it involves equity work, we tend to feel an extra sense of responsibility to speak our minds. AS WE SHOULD. Let me say that again: AS YOU SHOULD. You should be speaking up against unjust practices – the art is in how this is achieved.

First, gather and assess the data: quantitative and qualitative. Get those receipts. Does this data show a pattern of behavior? Yes, your feelings about the situation are very important, and in order to communicate the problem it is best to start with the data, because part of your strategy is persuasion. Second, is there anything you could have done differently? Next, have a plan of what you would like to see changed or done differently as well as your role in that plan–what will you do differently? Finally, in collaboration decide on an accountability plan and follow-up. What will success look like in a week? In a month? When should you regroup to check-in on progress or get further support? 

I know working through these emotional disagreements is always easier said than done and that the emotional toll it takes on your physical and mental health can be exhausting. You will hear me say this often: reach out to your support network. While venting is not recommended in the work setting, venting to your friends can help you feel seen and validated. Whatever drama you are working through at work, you got this. As difficult and all-consuming as it all seems right now, remember that this is temporary. You will get through this.

 Wishing you a no-drama summer, but if it happens, remember YOU GOT THIS! 

Let’s go!

~Alondra